Do you wonder where these amazing new strategies of life, presuppositions, laws of the universe, steps to success etc. etc. all come from?
There are so many ways to look at life, deal with our problems, ‘get what we want’ and ‘be content’ strategies out there that I really don’t have the time to study them all. What I have discovered is a very simple core to what they all seem to bring together. It is basically: WHAT WE FEEL INSIDE IS BASED UPON HOW WE SEE OUTSIDE. I don’t mean what we see, but how we see.
Think about the Law of attraction, we get what we believe in, what we will truly feel we will receive we will receive because the universe is reacting to how we perceive what we want. In NLP they have a presupposition that states The Meaning of your communication is the response that you will get. So if we put something out, it will come back, if we believe we are great, we will appear great and communicate as someone that is great. So we will attract what we are wanting! Sounds familiar doesn’t it.
So what if we look at some of the concepts out there which are currently popular and see how they fair. The mind and the body are inseparable (NLP presupposition) your thoughts and emotions affect your body and vice versa, Wholeness and Integration, (Gestalt key concept) the mind and body as one unit, integration as a whole maintains balance, also Here and Now, the individual being in the conscious moment at the present time; Focus on the present moment (Mindfulness) when your mind is lost in thinking of the past or the future, bring it back to focus on the experiences of right now.
When we look through there are more interconnections between all these popular therapies and techniques.
The question is, which is right?
Simply put, they all are. If something is getting you to look at how you are living your life, affecting your health, and making you into a better you without causing a negative influence on others, then do it.
I wrote an earlier blog about perspective, we can all look at the same thing and see something different, and that is HOW WE SEE OUTSIDE. We can create whatever world we want to live in, based on how we perceive the world around us. If we allow it to be swayed by negative influence, then we will see more negativity, if we look for the good and see the bonuses life offers us then we will have a more positive outlook on the life and world around us.
What can we do to make the changes we need to make our own lives easier? After all, it is us that will need to make those changes, if we wait for others to make our lives better, we will be waiting a long long time.
I have found a list of Rules to being Human, which was translated from Sanskrit or discovered by Dr Cherie Carter-Scott and to be honest, I could see some of the core principles and concepts in pretty much all of the differing options out there. I haven’t read the book, so that is up to you if you wish to do it.
RULE 1: YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY.
Whether you love it or hate it, it’s yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what’s inside.
RULE 2: YOU WILL BE PRESENTED WITH LESSONS.
Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons are specific to you, and learning them ‘is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life’.
RULE 3: THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS.
Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial, and error, so it is inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you’d want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgment – of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine – it’s also ‘the act of erasing an emotional debt’. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour – especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps – are central to the perspective that ‘mistakes’ are simply lessons we must learn.
RULE 4: THE LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL LEARNED.
Lessons repeat until learned. What manifests as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons – they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance – ‘causality’ must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required – change doesn’t happen overnight, so give change time to happen.
RULE 5: LEARNING DOES NOT END.
While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the ‘rhythm of life’, don’t struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change – be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.
RULE 6: “THERE” IS NO BETTER THAN “HERE”.
The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what’s good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.
RULE 7: OTHERS ARE ONLY MIRRORS OF YOU.
You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.
RULE 8: WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU.
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don’t get angry about things – bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us – use it when you need to do what’s right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.
RULE 9: YOUR ANSWERS LIE INSIDE OF YOU.
Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.
And then this added one from the book:
RULE 10: YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS AT BIRTH.
You can remember it if you want by unravelling the double helix of inner knowing.
If these rules are truly from ancient Sanskrit then that would make them thousands of years old, and if we look at things that have been around that long, religion firmly pushed to the side, that is one subject I will avoid. We can look at traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), and how some of the understanding of meridians and energy points for acupuncture is now being ‘proven’ in science, how hypnosis was used to treat conditions in ancient Egypt, forms of yoga, energy transfer like Reiki is being understood due to the heart being over 50% neurons and emitting 60 times more electromagnetic energy than the brain.
All of these new factors that are much older than any modern medicine, all given a bad name by artificial practitioners and those who claim to have an idea of how it works but don’t, yet science is catching up. Does this mean that it is a cycle? Do we go round and round, dealing with stress, coping with self doubt and comparing ourselves to what other people have and want? And then rediscovering that it isn’t important and us being us is? Personally I hope so because I have become aware, aware that I can’t change others, if people want things in their lives to change, they have to know what it is they want to change and find the answer to change it for themselves, and it is usually within the perspective of their own lives, as we all have.
Is my life better? A question I have been asked, I could answer: “compared to what?” Or “than who’s?” I can’t give an answer because the question to me doesn’t make sense. You see here are my thoughts, and if you disagree, then that is completely your choice based on your perspectives built from your own experiences, so how can I alter that? My thoughts are these:
We spend so much time putting ourselves under masses of stress and worry about things that are never going to happen, we think about 1000 things that ‘could’ happen when we know that only 1 of them will, so we have 999 ideas and storylines in our head stressing us out and affecting us in a negative manner. That is a lot of stress over something that isn’t real!
We put ourselves under pressure based on what WE think OTHER people are thinking! Do they like, love, hate, critique, compare, fear me?
We compare ourselves! I wish I had their hair, eyes, body, job, money, car…. And list goes on.
People dress to meet specific understandings of what a person in that position should look like, we do things that we believe people should if they were us, we base entire lifestyles and appearance based on what others thinks, then an individual stands out and shows that it doesn’t matter, so everyone becomes ‘the same individual’.
I have met a lot of people from a lot of different backgrounds, and personally I feel those who are trying to be in the right post code (zip code), drive the right car, play the right sports and read the right newspaper have lost their individualism and therefore anybody presenting the same ‘choice’ can do just what they do, because they are all just mimicking the same aspects.
When I see someone doing things their own way, not trying to fit into the right categories I usually see a much happier person. When we do things for ourselves, it does not mean we ignore others, it means we do things for others because it is what we want to do, the idea makes us feel better inside seeing someone else feeling better by our actions. Not one person on this planet is perfect! Not one! So out of that 7 billion people is it really so bad being you?
At that question, around 60%+ thought ‘but you haven’t had my life’ another 20% were likely to think ‘you couldn’t manage my life!’ and so on (made up stats, just to make a point) but the amount of people who genuinely think ‘I like my life because I am happy and those around me are happy’ are too few to say. Isn’t that a horrible thought that not enough people are actually happy and know that those around them are too?
Take time to think about yourself, you are not a machine, be aware of yourself and others and read some of those rules, presuppositions, concepts and whatever else is there. Relax your bodies, relax your minds and listen to them. Your body tells you when it is tired, in need of food and water and under too much pressure. Stop trying to be that person who you think you should be and enjoy being the person you are, unique and here. Don’t waste it, enjoy it, see the light in the eyes of others, take time to be aware of your own feelings, thoughts and wants. Yes, we need to work, pay bills, support families but if you put yourself under so much pressure that you can’t do that, then isn’t that a paradox?
Personally I find writing very hard, I struggled wondering whether my spelling, grammar or punctuation wasn’t up to par, but then I stopped and looked at it this way. If I want to say something, and put it into text then I can do that. If people are more concerned about the way I’ve written it, well, then they weren’t reading the article, they were judging it. If people are going to judge what I say, then that is based completely on their own perception and again trying to make me fall into a box or category based entirely on what they understand or believe from what they have been told. Fine, if that’s what they want to do, it is their choice, mine is to sit here and let the words fall out of and into hands that still use 4 fingers for typing on a good day. I am me, a person with their own thoughts, morals and beliefs, based upon what I learned as I grew up, who I learned things from and then added to by finding others thoughts and ways by looking in new directions, speaking to new people, looking how others perceived life and realising I was wrong in my thoughts at times, but that was through lack of understanding or, as most of us do, taking others opinions to be factual.
Is this text factual? Well when I have spoken of other peoples work, it is what is out there, but this article in itself is again my own opinion… do you know what yours truly is?
Here is a great test for you, play this sound clip of 3 chimes and see where your mind goes. No questions, no answers, just listen and notice your own mind.
I think you’ll be surprised.